I get it.
American culture and most women are obsessed with weight, skinny jeans, and looking like a celebrity who has a personal chef and trainer.
I am not one of these women. I don’t pour over celebrity gossip magazines, hit the gym six days a week, or diet for that matter.
The only “diet” I am on, is gluten-free, which I am on because when I eat gluten the following things happen: I get massive explosive poop, migraines, and more GI symptoms that dare not speak their name. It’s not pretty, nor am I when I eat that toxic crap.
The sad part is, the gluten, is so mainstreamed into our diets, that I have a really hard time eating at weddings, showers, restaurants, etc. without drawing eyes and comments from women abound.
I guess, from the ignorant untrained eye, watching me eat at such functions would make you think that I have an eating disorder, but I don’t. I just can’t eat fried foods, croutons, pasta, cake, etc.
I eat a lot of meat. And ghee. And coconut milk. Bacon. Steak with fat on it. And gluten-free carbs and bread that I bake from scratch. I eat. I really do.
So when I hear comments from others like: “You look like a child” or “You need to pack on a few pounds”, it hurts.
Why?
Because I wouldn’t turn to them and say, “You need to lose fifty pounds.” ”Maybe you should reconsider that second helping of pasta, it makes you FAT.” That is socially unacceptable, so why is it okay to tell me, I need to eat a burger and FATTEN UP?
It’s not.
I am not cattle being finished for slaughter. Sure, I get it. They look at my size zero ass and probably think, she’s starving herself to be that small. I used to look at anorexic models in college and say the same thing, “She needs a burger”.
I do eat burgers {but they are grass fed on a gluten-free bun, which coincidentally has MORE calories than the regular ones}.
I suspect my weight loss has to do with stress and this so-called adrenal fatigue. Raising two boys and never sitting down is a great workout plan. Cutting most processed and crap foods from your diet is a sure way to lose weight.
It think it’s high time we stop focusing on the weight of others, and maybe talk about more pressing matters: like hair and shoes.
I LOVE you! I understand your feelings completely. I do not have your gluten issue but I’m skinny. Not by my doing, but by the doing of my DNA. The comments from others are just ridiculous sometimes! I am with you sister — Let’s talk about shoes!!!
Cheryl @ That’s What Che Said…
So true! It’s just the same as telling someone who’s overweight to lose a few pounds. People need to think about what they’re saying before they speak. Even if the person has good intentions, their comments could be taken a completely different way.
I agree 101%! I’m not on a special diet but I am naturally small. I can’t help it, I’ve always been that way. People don’t understand how mean and hurtful their backhanded comments are. And as you say, there are more important things to focus on…there’s a new shoe store opening in my neighbourhood soon, I cannot wait to see what they bring in!
I couldn’t agree more. I’m actually a normal weight right now(which is heavy for me, because peri-menopause is kicking my tail,) but I remember how it stung when people would say that I was too skinny and should eat more(Hello, you see the plate of food right?) Great post! Thanks for sharing.
You read my mind woman! I have always been really skinny and able to eat whatever I want..which is great..but its not great when people call you anorexic or bulimic if they see you eating. I totally agree that its just as socially unacceptable as calling someone fat or telling them to lose weight! Thanks for bringing light to this issue!
you.are.awesome.
YAY! Hair and shoes!
I just got the “let’s not do that again” talk from the nurse at my OB appointment today. I’ve gained a total of 5 lbs since this pregnancy began but it’s been hotter than the depths of hell so I chugged a big gulps-sized drink before I got to my appointment. According to the scale I had gained an additional 3 lbs. Even if I had gained a full EIGHT POUNDS by 20 weeks? Is that so horrible? I wanted to tell her “back off b*tch, I WAS THIRSTY!”
Ok, I’m done with my psycho pregnant lady rant. Let’s all go eat a grass fed burger!
Amen. I’m not as tiny now as I used to be, and I don’t have a gluten issue…but I had a “friend” who wanted to continually tell me I was “anorexic” or that I didn’t look “healthy”…it’s ridiculous!
I grew up with family constantly telling me I was “too skinny” and that I need to “eat more.” When really I was a healthy weight. Now I still have people making comments like “You don’t need to work out so much” or “you can have another helping, it won’t hurt YOU” and I think…really? I often feel ridiculed for being thin and being very healthy…but I’ve come to realize it is their problem, not mine! Thanks for your post!
That last line made me laugh!
Agreed! I’m now a size 4 due to the same things (I was up to a size 12 after I had my daughter) and everyone like EAT! Then I have to go into this big explanation that I eat all day but it’s not processed crap and no one really gets it! Glad you do! 
Keep those recipes coming lady!! 
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I couldn’t agree more. For some reason people don’t think it’s hurtful just because your on the other side of the scale. But there is nothing more telling than someone who makes blatant assumptions on someone based on their looks. It makes me crazy. Get ‘em momma!
Such a great post! What a good reminder of how important it is not to judge by looks alone – even if those looks are skinny and cute! I have a good friend whose naturally skinny frame I covet, but who is always lamenting her lack of curves. The grass is always greener on the other side. The important thing is the SISTERHOOD, right?!
SO well said. =)